THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

Di and I spoke last night at the Tree of Life Inspiration Group in Moseley. Our talk was called ‘Cosmic Attraction – A Life Without Limits?’. I made a somewhat controversial statement…

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

‘cos I do like to be a bit controversial, make people think and cut through the hype.  Di and I presented an interesting debate with a very interactive audience…

Here’s what I wrote on Facebook this morning, for those who could not make it:

I don’t believe there is a LAW of Attraction (LoA), not the way it generally gets described and over-simplified and over-hyped:

• Thoughts don’t just become things. Thought can definitely sabotage our ability to harness what gets called the LoA and get into ‘the flow. Thoughts also greatly influence our feelings and it is this ‘feeligisation’ (as Dr David Hamilton calls it) which has a much greater impact.
• Like attracts like sometimes… also opposites sometimes attract.
• There are many so called natural laws, laws of spirituality, attraction, vibration etc, some for me are more believable than others. Your beliefs do have a tendency to create your reality – so pick good ones – they must be authentic for you though! People like Deepak Chopra explain such ‘Laws’ very well.  Its not concrete though and such perspectives don’t work well for everyone.

So does this mean that only certain types of people can get into the flow and harness the LoA? I’d say definitely not. I am a hugely different personality style to Diane, yet we both manage to get into the flow regularly, we also work very well together, although it has taken some work to achieve this. We have become each other’s greatest teachers, because we are so different, yet have a common purpose.

There most definitely is an observable phenomenon, which gets referred to as the LoA. There’s lots of evidence to support how we connect with our energy, unfortunately much of it seems unreliable and unrepeatable. That does not mean it is not the way things can work, especially when you believe it. People have made a quantum leap between quantum physics and the LoA. Quantum physics proves nothing as yet, but is surely opens our minds to some amazing possibilities. We certainly have to be open and ‘calibrating’ highly in order to attract and connect with similarly highly calibrating ‘things’.

The way to tap into this phenomenon successfully is different for different people. We are all masters of the LoA – we generally attract and connect with what we focus on. We are conditioned and taught to focus on what we don’t want and to sabotage the good stuff with negative thinking and lousy beliefs. Identifying and acting according to your higher self, being authentic, identifying and aligning to your true values, finding ways to ‘be’ with authentic beliefs that serve you. Your beliefs do have a tendenacy to create your reality – so pick good ones – they must be authentic for you though!  All of this gets you connected and into the flow.

I’ve worked with hundreds of people who want to believe in the LoA and have invested in themselves. Many are trying to force it to work. They have no powerful and authentic ‘why’, no true passion. For me, the real ‘Secret’ for many people has been found through the ‘Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway®’ workshops that we teach. The letting go of limitations and connecting to true and authentic potential has consistently been an incredible transformation, from which magic has flowed.

Contact us to find out how we can help you to identify your authentic self and to CONNECT TO YOUR POTENTIAL.

Hi, it’s Di here… and now I’ll share with you some of my experiences of how the Law of Attraction has shown up in my life…

I completely agree with Andy’s outlook on how it works – he is a very logical male and has such an incredible mind. He has challenged many of my own beliefs, just as I have challenged his… and together we have opened each other up to a Universe of possibilities…

For me, particularly after teaching the workshops that we’ve shared over the last 2 years, I know without doubt that we create our lives with our beliefs. I also firmly believe that we teach people how to treat us, so if someone has a belief that they’re not worthy, then that energy will come through in their body language, words and actions in their communication with others.  People are less likely to respond favourably to us when we don’t feel we’re worthy… thus, we generally create our own outcomes with others by the energy we take into any situation and in the way we choose to respond to it.  Respond with love and you will attract a very different outcome than if you respond with anger. Of course you will…

When we shift our limiting beliefs and step through our fears, then our energy calibration rises and we become one of those people who lights up a room when we enter it.  Don’t you just love being around people like that..?  These people teach others that they deserve love and respect, simply because they love and respect themselves.  They will create very different outcomes for themselves because others will want to love them, help them, give to them, buy from them and so on… it all makes such perfectly logical sense.  Andy is completely right; there really is no ‘secret’ to it…

However… in saying this, I have also experienced what I can only describe as magic and miracles in my life – so many incredible ‘coincidences’ that have flowed my way with such synergy and perfection at exactly the right time, and always just a short while after I’ve thought to myself ‘I’d really love that’… that I simply can’t explain the phenomenon away.  I know it can’t just be down to just my beliefs – these perfect coincidences are far too significant for that.  I agree completely that I was open to recognising them because I had recently wished for them, but the synergy of them showing up in the ways that they have is not explainable in my book.  I do know for sure that when I make my wishes, the less attachment I have to the outcome, and the deeper the sense of fun that I make the wish with, the quicker and more accurately the perfect thing comes my way.  I consider myself to be one of the luckiest people alive… a very empowering belief to have gifted myself with indeed.

For me, the LoA is a combination of the two elements – the energy within me, and the energy ‘out there’. I am definately responsible for creating the former, and I strongly believe that I am also responsible for the power of my connection to the latter. I’ve learned that magic and flow happens for me when: -

• I feel an overwhelming sense of love and gratitude for everyone and everything in my life…
• I have empowering beliefs that are completely in alignment with my values…
• I act with intention after an inspired thought… this opens unbelievable doors…
• I just know within my heart and soul that it’s on its way… and at the same time…
• By having no attachment to the outcome… instead, just feeling a sense of fun about life…

I feel so connected to this Universal energy that I know in my heart that I would be doing myself a huge disservice by saying that it’s simply all down to my own beliefs… they in themselves could not have drawn the perfection and synergy into my life that I’ve witnessed.  In my personal experience, there is far more to it than that.  Either that, or I am just the luckiest person alive!…

I adore having an open mind on the whole perspective, and I adore listening to and learning from everyone else’s perspective too… one thing I know for sure is that life is utterly amazing and I love every second of it.. the good, the bad and the indifferent – it’s all amazing 

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Law of Attraction – the Key to Corporate Success

As an experienced strategic marketing consultant of 17 years, some 5 years ago I got into personal development and then discovered the Law of Attraction (LoA). After learning about and playing with the LoA, cutting through the hype and using my science and research background to study it, I came to realise a few things:

• The Law of Attraction is surrounded by mystery and hype
• Whilst the exact scientific explanations are not conclusive, there is plenty of observable evidence to back up the phenomenon. Although the meta-physics gets over-hyped…  it does open our mind to many amazing possibilities
• We are all, already masters of the Law of Attraction – we just need to recognise, harness and focus this on what we truly and authentically desire
• Authenticity and alignment to core values is a key factor
• Demolishing hidden limiting beliefs is another key factor
• The Law of Attraction works by energetic connection – like the poles of a magnet can attract or repel – learning how not to be in repel mode is a key factor.
• Success in using the Law of Attraction and Cosmic Ordering is about experiencing these energetic connections and the feelings behind them -

So what does this have to do with corporate success? EVERYTHING

These energetic connections underpin all aspects of corporate performance.

Organisations are made up of people connecting and doing. The quality of those connections determines the effectiveness of all leadership, sales, marketing, communication  and human resources activity.

These Law of Attraction tools and principals can be used to inspire a corporate culture of efficiency and effectiveness, achieving alignment and authenticity, creating flow, success and abundance. From this single initiative comes: employee engagement, emotional intelligence, improved teamwork, lasting successful partnerships with customers and suppliers, imparting brand values, increased trust and rapport (with everyone), staff retention…this list goes on and on.

As with most initiatives, top level buy-in, with leaders walking the talk is important. A huge difference is the level of empowerment and personal responsibility everyone can experience from the bottom up. Most/all aspects of everyone’s lives will be enhanced, not just the corporate bottom line and organisational performance metrics. So it is a win:win all round. Not only that, the often dramatic increases in positivity, responsibility, empowerment, respect, co-operation and rapport make the workplace fun and fulfilling.

Click the link below to find out how to implement this in your organisation, check out our new collaboration with Cambridge Professional Academy and our Connect To Your Potential workshops:

http://connecttoyourpotential.professionalacademy.com/

Does Cosmic Ordering Work?

Obviously we firmly believe that it does and experience this every day in our lives. Yet, we know it is a contentious subject and not everyone believes it can or does work for them.  These very beliefs are in fact the crux of the issue, for what you believe has a huge hand in creating your experience of reality.

We all very much manifest and create our realities – it is like they are virtual realities, not hard wired destiny or set in stone. If you look at the word belief… be[LIE]f you see inside every belief is a lie – there are no absolute truths.

So does Cosmic Ordering work? Journalist AnneMarie Flannagan attended our Cosmic Ordering workshop earlier this year and was able to manifest more work, an unexpected holiday, feeling calmer and improved relationships. You can read about her experinces in the August issues of Soul & Spirit magazine, out now in newsagents.

Great Feedback from Solihull Business Club

The feedback from Solihull Business Club was “thanks for delivering an excellent presentation“.

“Businesses do have personalities which cascade down from the top, and too often in the UK that is a negative energy which hampers everything the company dreams of doing, I do agree that being able to bring a positive energy in to any organisation is a key ingredient for success.“

Our presentation was titled:”What’s at the Cutting Edge of Personal Development, Coaching and Mentoring? How Can It Help Me And My Business?” We discussed how fear, limiting beliefs, a lack of emotional intelligence in management and leadership are all interrelated and drastically hold businesses back from achieving their true potential, on all kinds of levels. The solution… we demonstrated how to manage emotions, overcome fear, promote great energy and manifest great connections between staff, management and customers, attracting outstanding success utilising the Law of Attraction. Our coaching, mentoring and training can facilitate this within individuals and businesses/organisations.

We have been invited back next year to present the club with even more inspiration and thought provoking, awareness raising material.

Here’s what Charles Willcock, Chairman, Solihull Business Club had to say:

“In the current economic situation if you have any doubts about the future,  and how to handle the challenges all around you, Andrew Nicholson and Diane MacDowall provide a refreshing thought provoking, energising presentation which helps you realise that, you have the potential to change your situation for the better, if you want to make that change“.

We are looking for more speaker engagements like this, so do let us know if you are aware of any.

Thanks, Andy & Di

PS. For those who missed our rendition last night, here is a video of ‘The Gratitude Dance’ on YouTube.  TRY IT! Notice how your level of vibrational energy and joy rises. This is a simple, effective example of one of the many many things that you can do to float up the emotional scale and promote emotional intelligence.

Shhhh! The Real Secret to ‘The Secret’

There is a lot of hype around at the moment on this subject and lots of myths about ‘The Secret’ to mastering Attraction. THERE IS NO SECRET !

We are all masters of the Law of Attraction AND the trouble is we mainly focus on what we don’t want – this proves to be a very poor strategy for life for most of us!

Andrew says: “The greatest lesson that I was ever taught by my coach, is that for the first 40 years of my life, I attracted everything – all my results and outcomes… good, bad and indifferent. I am indeed a master of the Law of Attraction. Now, there was not a lot of bad stuff, a heck of a lot of mediocrity and not enough of the good and amazing stuff. Once I understood this, in a language that I could relate to and in a way that my logic could not refute – I realised that only I had responsibility for my life and my outcomes, no-one and no-thing else, just me. This can seem a little daunting – it is also incredibly liberating, especially when you learn how you have manifested until now… And how by changing what you focus on and utilising tools such as incantations, visionboards, visualisation and feelingisation, you can have more of what you want in life“

Since 2005, Andrew has completely transformed his life, left a dead-end career, manifested an incredible job working at one of the foremost personal development and relationship retreats, attracted his soul mate and returned to the UK to start a new business with Diane, said soul mate.

Andrew continues… “in my twenties, my strategy for life was based on knowing what I did not want. I thought I was quite clever to know this. I thought it gave me a good direction in life. I perceived that it put me ahead of some of my peers who did not seem to know what they wanted. I realise now, looking back, that this strategy got me increasingly mediocre results. Now I understand that my ‘away from’ motivations lacked conviction, authenticity and alignment to my true self.“

So the first key to mastering the Law of Attraction is to:

KNOW YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WANT

How do you achieve that? There is no quick and simple answer. Knowing yourself comprises knowing your values and their underlying motivations (including towards and away from motivations). These underlying motivations are closely associated with your beliefs (both limiting and empowering, plus associated rules). Then there is understanding how you meet your basic human needs (of which there are four) and to what extent you associate to the two other ‘higher needs’.

Your values, needs, beliefs/rules and abilities make up your internal identity. There are three levels to identity:

(i) who you truly are (which is hidden from most of us).
(ii) how we and our ego like to portray ‘us’ to ourselves – internally.
(iii) how we and our ego portray ourselves to the outside world.

So to manifest what you truly desire in life using a pure Power of Intention, you need to cut through the layers of falsehood and find the real you.

This important first step takes time and also requires you to truly LOVE YOURSELF, ACCEPT YOURSELF and let go of emotional baggage.

From this place of authenticity you can start to attract abundance in all its richness of form.

Then the second key to mastering the Law of Attraction is to:

FIND YOUR TRUE SENSE OF DIRECTION AND PURPOSE

Through finding and aligning to your core values, you can develop a powerful purpose in life and a sense of direction that steers you towards success rather than away from fear or limiting beliefs. You can create a magical vision for your life, framed by gradtitude, joy and appreciation.

The third and final key to mastering the Law of Attraction is to:

MASTER THE TOOLS OF ATTRACTION AND INTENTION

This goes way beyond simply asking for and visualising your outcomes.

It is about feeling-isation. The Power of Intention comes from the intensity, accuracy and consistency of your focus/attention multiplied by the level of desire that you have multiplied by the amount energy that you give to the intention.

Power of Intention = Desire x Attention x Energy

Your Power of Intention, your level of desire and your energy will all be massively increased by using tools like:

• Values Elicitation – our own tool to help you to identify your core values and to work on making them all positive towards values turning around any limiting beliefs and disempowering rules.
• On-Purpose’ our own service to help you to determine your authentic purpose and direction in life.
  Incantations (powerful statements that you chant) encapsulating your values, vision and purpose, plus any specific goals, desires and outcomes.
• Visionboards – your dreams captured as inspiring images.
• Incantations
• Guided-visualisation – hypnotherapy CDs produced for you by Diane, to listen to time and again, re-wiring your subconscious to totally align it with your conscious desires and intentions.

Andy & Di’s VisionBoards

Examples of many of these Cosmic Attraction tools are freely available as downloads from our publications storefront: http://www.lulu.com/cosmicattraction

There are many things that you can do to raise your energy and lift your emotions, so that you start to eminate and attract better experiences and opportunities in to your life. Click here for a checklist of the many things that you can easily incorporate into a daily/weekly routine in order to keep your energy high. Although there are lots of recommendations on this list, many of them are either simple changes or ommissions that you can make from your routine.

What other help is available? We also provide:

• Law of Attraction Coaching
• Workshops
  • Overcoming fear and limiting beliefs
  • Cosmic Ordering
  • Manifesting your ultimate relationship
• Relationship Coaching and Mentoring, 1:1 and 2:2 for couples
• Guidance on creating your own Visionboard and Incantation
• Personalised hypnotherapy CDs/MP3s
• Values & Needs coaching and tools
• Purpose coaching

For more information on Cosmic Attraction, go to our web site http://www.cosmic-attraction.com

For more information on enjoying Success in Love and Relationships, go to our web site: http://www.executive-relationship-coaching.co.uk

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