Some Unexpected Benefits Experienced In This Weekend’s Workshop

Hi, It’s Andy here again.

I just wanted to mention some unexpected benefits experienced several participants from this weekend’s ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’  workshop:

• Everyone slept very well on Saturday night. Two participants in particular suffer from some insomnia – they experienced the best night’s sleep in ages.
• Most commented on feeling great on Sunday morning (in part due to point one). This is also due to awaking with a positive attitude, looking forward to taking positive action for the day’s outcomes. This invigorated them as they woke up.
• People achieved new high levels of clarity in their thinking and communication. One participant has already commented on experiencing much improved communication on their first day back at work – something which their colleagues and clients have already commented on.
• The improved communication even extended noticably for three participants into larger and more clear handwriting in their workbooks. It is amazing how our ego typically causes confusion and unclear thinking in an attempt to sabotage any decision making that might otherwise take us out of our comfort zone (otherwise known as growth).

Cryptic men and curious women

A great blog about communication, interpretation and curiosity (you know what it did to the cat!) , by Robyn Godfrey, reproduced here with her permission:

“ambiguous, equivocal, cryptic, enigmatic describe conditions or statements not clear in meaning. ambiguous can refer to a statement, act, or attitude that is capable of two or more often contradictory interpretations, usually accidentally or unintentionally so: an ambiguous passage in the preamble. equivocal, usually applied to spoken as well as written language, also means susceptible of two or more interpretations, and it usually suggests a deliberate intent to mislead by avoiding clarity: saving face with an equivocal response to an embarrassing question. cryptic usually refers to intentional obscurity, especially in language, and often implies a private or hidden meaning but stresses resultant mystification or puzzlement: a cryptic remark that left us struggling to interpret his intention. enigmatic focuses on perplexity resulting from a mysterious or imponderable event or utterance, often one of great importance or deep significance: prophetic texts so enigmatic that their meaning has been disputed for centuries.” (grabbed from dictionary reference)

Its hard to even find a single article about this, maybe I have the wrong phase, but I’m not sure what else to call this.

There’s nothing more frustrating than a cryptic man.. or woman for that matter. but I have noticed its men mostly.. examples are probably most spiritual gurus/guides out there..if hadn’t of read Eckhart Tolles books, i would still to this day be wondering what the hell those people were on about, (Tolle being very uncryptic.. talks in simple terms. explains any “sayings” he uses etc) and I guess Brock Palmer (SL relationship Wisdom guide) would be another one who speaks in a clear language.

I am really thinking now these guru type people come up with this junk to draw in the followers, make themselves seem as almost supernatural thinkers… it seems almost like a planned tactic.. maybe it is.. a very old one..

I know those phrases and sayings do have value and meaning, I really love quotes, I do and I love quotes that get you thinking for yourself.. but! there’s a limit for me.. constant riddles and cryptic phrases with no answers in the end causes confusion and frustration.. why should I always have to be asking what they mean.. obviously they already know, so why not just say it! I really don’t need to be living my life in constant frustration and annoyance trying to get answers.. I will eventually just give up and ignore them.

In my personal life, I have to admit I find cryptic men a lure, my “need to know” attitude feeds my curiosity immensely to the point of utter frustration…half truths, subtle hidden meanings, cryptic questions and answers just pull me in to find out more, I can waste a hell of a lot of time just thinking on what they really mean, trying to find the “truth”… but with little possibility of actual answers, …as with teachers and guides.. I will eventually give up trying when the frustration is stronger than my curiosity.

Maybe its that most men find talking about certain things difficult, so they create riddles for you to figure it out.. but get over it!.. what year is this anyway? we should be open and clear with each other, we have a common language, lets try using it! …

Cryptic guys?. if you have something to say.. just say it. you wont be thought of as any less of a man.. in fact the opposite!